Stop Chasing the 10 Out of 10 Life

My conversation with Maurice Chism on That Will Never Work

From the outside, your life looks like a 10.

The title. The house. The family. The results.

And inside? It feels like a 7.

You have it pretty good. You know that. You even feel a little guilty saying it out loud. So you don't.

When I ask new clients how their life feels out of 10, most of them say 7. Not 2. Not 4. Seven. Successful people who tell me: "I shouldn't complain. Maybe I shouldn't even be here."

I talked about this with Maurice Chism on That Will Never Work. (I told him on air that I love his jingle. I still do lol.)

Here's what I told him.

7 is amazing.

The 7 is not what hurts. The gap hurts. The space between where you are and where you think you should be. And that 10 keeps moving. Today it's a million. Next year it's ten million. Then it's something else.

So I stopped chasing the 10 out of 10 life.

I started creating 10 out of 10 moments instead.

I tested it on myself first, like I always do. One afternoon I took my dog, went to my hammock in the forest and stayed there in the sun. 10 out of 10. The next day I ran into one of my old mentors on the street and hugged her. 10 out of 10.

Once you tell your subconscious mind that these moments matter, it starts finding them for you. They were there all along. You just weren't looking.

Then Maurice asked the real question. What happens when, the day after your hammock, someone tells you they made 10 million yesterday?

You see their result from yesterday. You don't see their mornings.

Someone close to me just sold his business to his employees. When I congratulated him, I said: I know you woke up at 4:30 every morning while I was sleeping. I know you were scared you wouldn't find the next contract, or the people, through COVID and everything else. That's what his "yesterday" cost.

You can only compare your life to someone else's if you know what they gave up. And you never do.

So the question is not "how do I catch up?"

It's "what do I care about?"

We also talked about:

• Why comparison makes so many people unhappy, even when they're doing very well

• Maurice's own "that will never work" story, heard from his family, now 500+ episodes and an award later

• Where those old voices come from (often before age seven) and why trying to control them doesn't work

• The manager who says "do it like me or you'll never move up," and how to pick your own story

• Why you don't need a 25-year decision, just the next one

• The fork in the road (there's no better road, only the one you take)

• Why I don't own a TV (a sobriety story, and a decor story lol)

One thing I said that I want you to keep:

Anything with "never" or "always" in it is false from the start. "This will never work"? You can tie your shoes. Maybe you can even cook an egg. So "never" is already false.

Maurice closed with a challenge I love. Pick one rule you live by. "I have to earn my rest." "Slowing down means falling behind." Then ask yourself: is it true? Or is it old programming you never updated?

Start there. Then go create one 10 out of 10 moment this week.

🎧 Listen to the full episode https://youtu.be/1qO8l4KBK9k?si=UU6RytD2mYxh80yo

Listen and tell me what you think!

Hypnotiquement vôtre,

Janylène xo